If this is of no interest to you, then fine, for a lot of people it won’t be. But it could help some of you.
Check out the website I have just posted. The characteristics/statements they have posted on the homepage almost described me to a T, and finally I think I realise that some of the things I feel are very valid and normal. I’ve read loads of self help and positive thinking books and seen life coaches, all of which is great and has certainly made a valid contribution to my life, but there were certain thought patterns which, no matter how hard I tried, just couldn’t seem to change. I was still taking things personally and still probably had a certain amount of fear of rejection, although certainly not as bad as it used to be.
Now that I realise I probably am an HSP, the first thing that’s important is to accept this and not try and wish I was something else. There are certain thought patterns and stuff which I believe can be changed, but others, such as sexuality, can’t be. Some maybe can be changed but it really depends on the person and how he/she is wired and you can’t try and be someone you’re not.
The second important thing is to love and accept other people, and love and accept yourself. The two go hand in hand. The true love and acceptance you have for a whole range of people, and not just your close friends and people who are similar to you, will probably reflect the way you feel about yourself. Likewise, the way you feel about yourself will probably in some way reflect on what you think of the general human race. If you think that most people will reject you, then guess what. The chances are that may well happen.
If you do want to change certain things, the first step is accepting yourself as you are, and accept that along the way, if you are an HSP, you are probably more vulnerable to getting hurt, and you probably will take things personally, from time to time, I still do, just don’t let it affect you for too long. So take things slowly. Ignore the bullshit that certain self help or relationship gurus or misunderstanding people say ie ‘get over it’ ‘you can be anything you want in 30 days’ ‘women don’t like nice guys’ etc. I’ve taken some of that nonsense to heart and now in the process of dismantling some of the thought patterns that have arisen. But I still think you can change, quite substantially, if you truly want to, just it may take a bit of time.
I’d strongly recommend, if you think you might fall into this category, to check out some websites and books on the subject – ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’ by Elaine Aron and ‘The Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide’ by Ted Zeff – people who have studied the subject for a while and know more than I do about it – or check out some links I have now put on my blog that relate to this subject.
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